Have you ever noticed all of the little “flaws” your friends think they have and how much it shakes their confidence? Their insecurities seem so insignificant to you. In fact, some of the things they are self-conscious about are what makes them so beautiful and lovable!
The first thing I want you to realize is this: everyone has those perceived “flaws” and thinks they are way bigger than they really are.
Yup.
It is easy to realize it when we think about our friends and loved ones and how they view themselves. So why is it so hard to realize our own greatness??
Think about the compliments you receive. Do you catch yourself cringing at them? Denying their truth? Thinking the person MUST just be saying this to be nice, and can’t possibly actually mean it?
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This is how everyone feels! No matter how freakin gorgeous and cool they seem to you, everyone has these insecurities and self-doubts.
That is…unless they have discovered the power of affirmations!
Okay, okay, so maybe that is a little extreme. But affirmations are a powerful tool to help us shift our mindset into believing more in ourselves. Little by little, the insecurities go away. And we can learn how to switch our thoughts when new insecurities come up.
How To Use Affirmations
When a thought that we have occurs in our head many times, and is coupled with an emotion, that thought can become a belief.
Once it becomes a belief, our subconscious mind will ALWAYS point it out to us! In fact, it will actually steer us clear of anything we don’t believe to be true, in order to validate our beliefs. This is why it is so hard to change people’s minds.
It does all of this without us having any clue. Nada.
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So what can we do when thoughts that reinforce our insecurities are clouding our mind??
I call it the Flip! With the flip method, we identify our insecurities or negative thoughts and choose an affirmation opposing them. When we realize we are dwelling on the negatives, we have to remind ourselves to flip it into the affirmation.
We also write the affirmation, say it out loud, meditate on it, visualize it – whichever of these methods works for you.
The idea here is that once our affirmation crosses our mind enough times, and we give ourselves the emotion behind it, we can turn that into a belief.
Now instead of our brain immediately pulling us to the insecurity (our initial subconscious belief), it draws us to our affirmation. It actually will point out the affirmation to you, and give you reasons why it is true. It will shun any thoughts that counteract it.
Sounds simple, right?
The hard part is sticking to it. It takes time to create a new belief, especially when you are new to the process and might not fully believe in it.
To make it a habit, set aside time each morning or evening to write your new affirmations. Put them on sticky notes on your bathroom mirror. Make them the background on your cell phone. Anything you can do to remind yourself to Flip your negative thoughts.
How Affirmations Grow Your Confidence
Okay, so we know using affirmations will help us shift out of our insecurities and create a more positive thought track in our minds.
How exactly will this change my shitty situation?
Let’s say you have social anxiety, or you worry constantly what others are thinking about you. Everyone experiences this to a degree, right?
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You use an affirmation to Flip those thoughts. Your thoughts start to shift automatically into thinking, “people love me. People love being around me. I love people and people love me.”
Now how does this affect our behavior around others?
Imagine your presence as you walk into the room believing everyone loves you want wants to be around you. Imagine your energy. Are you smiling at everyone? Are you starting conversations with strangers? How are people reacting towards you??
These things will actually start to happen as your subconscious mind starts to believe it.
Once we believe we can have it, we start taking the actions necessary to get us there.
This is how affirmations not only change our thought and mood, but our entire world around us.
20 Confidence Boosting Affirmations:
- I am worthy of loving and being loved
- I am enough
- I am my own best friend
- I love myself for exactly who I am
- I love people and people love me
- People love me for exactly who I am
- Clients love me
- I radiate energy
- I radiate positivity
- I trust myself
- Everything always works out for me in perfect timing
- I am great at what I do
- I am loved
- Friends come to me easily
- I am worthy of my dreams
- I am capable of anything I set my mind to
- I am always joyful
- I love being me
- I am beautiful and radiant
- I choose to see the good
